So you chose the perfect profile picture (public or private, whichever suits your needs), have a great username, and found someone who sparks your interest. Great! Now, not to put too much pressure on you, but this is where many people get tripped up.
The first message stops a lot of conversations before they even start. Here are some things you can do to keep them from hitting the delete button.
Have a point and get to it. QUICKLY.
We live in a world where we are overloaded with tons of information and we have the attention spans of goldfish. This is especially relevant for online dating. Simply saying “Hello” will not be enough to get their attention; it’s vague, impersonal, and doesn’t initiate a conversation. Let them know why you messaged them, or tell them a bit about what you’re looking for.
Now, this does not mean you should say, “You have a great body, wanna meet and hook-up?” While that does get right to the point, it can also be considered offensive and might get you blocked right away. Read the person’s profile to get an idea of the temperature. If her username is more suggestive, or she explicitly states she is looking for casual sex, your message can reflect that. If not, save the spicier stuff for later on.
Example 1 : Hey there! Liked what I read here and saw you like Game of Thrones. Red Wedding… W.T.F!!!?? If you haven’t seen it, you need to go home and watch it immediately!
Example 2: Hi! I read through your profile and I have to say, only my college English teacher made more use of the Oxford comma than you. My name is Alex. Grammar snob at your service!
IT’S OK TO BRING THE CHEESE, SOMETIMES.
Everyone likes to feel special, but there’s a fine line between cute, flattering cheese and over-the-top, insincere fromage. If done well, you’ll showcase your sense of humor and your tender side. That’s a lethal combo! But tread carefully, because the